Limiting Beliefs vs Empowering Beliefs

Limiting beliefs: If I didn't make it, my child won't either!

Next Sunday in Brazil will be Father's Day. That's why I've chosen this topic for today. Let's talk a little about the way you communicate with your child, if you're already a father - or if you want to be one one day.

From birth, we go through various experiences throughout our lives. We meet people who influence us, we live surrounded by rules and standards and we make choices. And it is within this context that our beliefs are built.

These beliefs can be good for us, or bad, depending on how we construct and use them.

Limiting Beliefs vs. Empowering Beliefs

We basically have two types of beliefs: limiting and empowering.

Limiting beliefs are those that prevent us from recognising that we are capable of performing a certain action, or make us think that we can only do something in a certain way, or lead us to think that if no one has achieved something, we won't either.

Empowering beliefs, on the other hand, are those that make us confident and help us achieve our goals. They help us to march steadily towards our goals with the certainty that we will achieve them.

Limiting beliefs usually come in the form of excuses that we give ourselves and others in order to justify what we would have liked to have done but didn't. They can also go beyond that, such that we don't realise what we have done. They can also go beyond that, in such a way as to make us feel undeserving of certain things.

What happens is that, at some point in our past, we allowed something or someone to put these beliefs into our minds and, without realising it, we still continue to share them with the world and the people around us.

We need to review our beliefs and start believing in the right things that will lead us to success!

In my book " Paixão em Vender - 5 Segredos do Vencedor", I make this point very clear in the sentence: "If someone tells you it's easy, be suspicious. But if they tell you it's impossible, run, because that's someone who has already lost faith, given up or sabotaged their own dreams."

Wrong beliefs destroy our dreams and our power to fulfil them!

Now, speaking of parents and children, YES, it happens the same way. We pass on our limiting beliefs to our children and they can pass them on to our grandchildren, and so we create the cycle of frustration, until one individual in this chain decides to change history.

So stop and think:

• How many negative things have you been repeating to your children, based solely on your personal disappointments?
• Do you believe that your children will grow if you continue to destroy their dreams because you believe that they are not capable of realising them?

Change your way of thinking and replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones. Give your children the chance and the strength they need to succeed!

Remember: you create your reality! You are in charge.